The word used in 2 Cor. 5:13 is the word inekstasomen which mean in a state of trance or ekstasis or out of their minds….
As for the gender there is no difference in Christ Jesus where Jew or Gentile. We are the bride of Christ and sons of God.
This is true in regards to salvation. Not to Church leadership.
1 Titus 3:2 A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach