My father, who is a long time smoker and retired coal miner, was recently diagnosed with severe copd (emphysema). He is on oxygen and is in rather frail health; in addition to his immune system being weak, he is barely able to leave the house with the exception of doctor’s visits. COPD is generally recognized as irreversible and fatal.
Approximately two years ago, I graduated with a master’s degree in sociology and decided to put off pursuing my ph.d. to spend time with my family before pursuing more schooling. With my current job, it seems as though I have grown stagnant and am extremely frustrated by the limited scope of opportunities I have with my present degree. Because of my grades, G.R.E. scores, and research history, I have an opportunity to enroll in a high end Ph.D. program that really suits my professional needs. This school is the only one that offers that area of specialization. I feel torn between continuing to spend time with my father and pursuing a degree that’s window of opportunity is closing more and more as I’ve been out of school. Both are family-related choices, one being to spend time with my parents and the other involves setting the stage for my children to have opportunities that my wife and I otherwise would not be able to provide.
Please pray for my father, my family, and that God grants me wisdom to make the right choices and to cope with this terrible process. Thank you all and God bless.
I pray that God will give you wisdom in this situation as well as healing for your dad. i lost my mom to cancer last year and i certianlly understand the wanting to spend as much time as possible with him.
Thanks for your prayers and support. I’ve been really torn up over my decision- the thing that I failed to mention in the initial post was that the PhD program I am looking at is out of state and a long distance from my family. Moving away would present the real possibility that I may never see him again.
Since I posted, I’ve been feeling much more at peace and less anxious. It is clear to me that the only thing you can do in situations like this is to lay your troubles at God’s and trust in Him to give you the strength, the will, and the wisdom you do what you must do.